Grief. Shock. Horror. If you, like I do, reach for your phone each morning to read the news with a huge sense of looming dread, terrified to read what’s happened over night, which small step forward was dismantled, who’s been hurt, ignored, and mistreated by a sociopathic president to the south, extremists, and those enabling it all through silence, ignorance, and apathy. If you’ve been in a constant state of “WHAT THE F*CK” and “HOW?” and “WHEN WILL THIS END?!” this past year, you’re not alone. If the questions of “what do I do and how?” have been gnawing at your brain, then read on. Today’s RAD Person of Vancouver is not only an amazing, woke AF woman (cause she is), she’s a Grief Coach, Death Doula, Intuitive Coach, Writer, “Recovering Lawyer”, and Fierce Feminist.
There are two reasons why I wanted to introduce you to Rachel Ricketts. First, her business loss&found “is a space of support to help young and emerging adults overcome the pain of loss and grief from all the shit life throws our way.” Grief isn’t generally talked about enough. We have all experienced grief in our lives, from little disappointments to shattering, life altering experiences. How have we been taught to deal with it? Suck it up! Shove it down! Don’t talk about it! Non of these solutions are sustainable.
“Enter loss&found… a space for you to be YOU — exactly as and who you are, unabashed and unafraid. Be it overcome with despair, floating mid-air or any of the other 100+ responses to grief; you are welcomed here. Every part of you. If you’re hurting. If you feel powerless. If it feels as though you’re all alone. This is the space for you. Through the power of narrative, coaching and community, you will find help and resources to heal yourself. I applaud dialogue and invoke integrity to help you heal and find your way, to get you and your loved ones from loss, to found. xo R.”
The second reason why I wanted to introduce you to Rachel Ricketts is to engage in the conversation about race, racism, and white guilt. Rachel recently published a piece called “We Need to Talk About White Guilt: How Grief Perpetuates Racism.” You can find the article here and I HIGHLY recommend reading it. Take your time, specifically my white friends, get a cup of tea, read, ponder, check your ego, read some more, reflect, dig deep, read some more, call your white friend, discuss, read some more.
As a white woman born, raised, and living in Vancouver I recognize the insane amount of privilege I have. Privilege isn’t earned, we know this, it’s something we are born into or not. It’s also a social construct. It’s based off of ideologies that have been thousands of years in the making. Ideologies that are meant to oppress, so that only some can retain power. As a fierce believer in equality and social justice, privilege is something I believe in fighting against. I believe that every soul should have equal rights and opportunities, no matter their race, gender, sexual orientation, access to wealth, abilities, etc… I’m preaching to the choir here, I know that. But the reason why I bring this up, is because I (we!) want to do something about all of this right?! So where to begin? What is my responsibility as a white woman living in Vancouver? How do I fight racism, inequality, and injustices? As Rachel writes, it starts with owning it. Recognize the white privilege (or whatever privilege you may have; health, access to wealth, living in a safe country, etc). Then educate yourself. Commit to anti-racists practices and speak out. Rachel lays out, in a gentle and beautiful way, the steps I can take to be an ally. So if you, like me, are feeling the constant heart pulls and tugs, I highly recommend reading some of these articles by Rachel.
Here are a few more resources on the subject, not written by Rachel, but while we’re talking about racism and white privilege, I thought I’d include them.
If you’re interested in Grief Couching or Death Doula sessions, or just want to follow this rad woman because’s she emits so much life and love and light, you can find Rachel here:
Until next time dear friends! Take care of yourself, and take care of your friends. xoxo